More than four years have passed but still feel like yesterday, i will never forget that day, Sunday in early Sep, 5:30 am my phone rings, and my best friend John on the line chocked up and could barely talk, and he said in a soft voice "I have bad News" my heart dropped , I knew something must be drastically wrong, he posed, I panicked more, he was unable to talk,the he said "Diana " I said Diana what, whats wrong,my heart even dropped further, he said "Diana Died" . I flipped, she is my best friend, I see her 3-4 times a week, we go out every weekend, and we talk on the phone every day and more than once. I was shocked and refused to believe him, she was young,healthy ,full of life,friendly, always smiling, fun to be around, a sweet person thats always there for her friends, always willing to help and very generous.
Diana was dating John, he is Christian and she was a muslim, but she had nothing to do with religion and islam, she drank,and ate pork and went out to clubs, always having fun, religion was not her cup of coffee nor was it in her priorities, and thats why we got along.
After few hours of denial and refusal to accept, I started digging into what happened and the stories were all confusing and things did not add up, for some reason that Saturday night we did not go out with her,neither I nor John, but she was still at the club with couple strange guys, people have seen her with them, but no one knew these guys. it was something weird as she always told me what she was doing and who she was hanging out with, not this time!!!
After i asked more questions, few people noticed that she was not feeling well at the club, but never thought anything of it, they just thought she had too much to drink, but after that she left with another friend who was suppose to take her home, as she got in his car she started to get worse so he called 911, and she was taken to the hospital, unfortunately she did not make it to the hospital and she died on the way.
I never bought the story,and I called her family,sisters and I tried to get more information, but I felt they either were hiding something or they really did not know. I asked for them to do autopsy but the answer was its Haram in Islam, its against the religion, as she had a very extreme brother in law , who was very religious and I am sure he was not pleased with her life style. Bottom line no they will not approve autopsy, now i started to feel more suspicious, who are these guys? could they have slipped something in her drink? is her family involved? is her brother in law behind this? are they hiding something?was the family part of a scam or a cover up? is it an honor crime? is it this? is it that ? too many questions and no answers. But I knew deep inside that nothing was going to bring her back.
Now the day of funeral , I decided to go with John, but as a kafir the family did not want him to go see her in the casket, I was trying to peak from the outside ,it was only women inside , no men, maybe just the immediate family male members. I noticed they veiled her. I was so angry, so was John, and we had at least a dozen of male friends, so we insisted on going in to see her, and they said if we go in they must close the casket, we insisted that it stays open, and finally we got our way.
Now four years after, i still do not have the answer, I only have these questions, I did not want to talk about it, even to the closest friends and my own GF, I preferred to keep it a mystery, but deep inside, I believe she was killed, I can say she still comes to my mind and sometimes I ask myself if I should have done more, but how can I convince her own family, I hinted to them few times that something is not adding up, and I mentioned many times that autopsy should have been done, in other words, I always hinted that it could be foul play, a planned murder. I dont think it was natural causes. I just hope I am wrong, I hope she is not mad at me for doing more. I kept quiet all this time, but the time has come to share this with my bothers, sisters and friends in the ITF.
What would you have done, if you were in my place? did I do the right things? did I let a killer get away and slide? was it honor?was it the fanatic brother in law? did these guys slip her something in the drink, too many questions and no one to answer.
Diana died and the story died, but her memory will always live in my heart and in my mind.
Diana I miss you and God Bless your sole, May you rest in Peace, I am sure u r in a better place, in the real heaven with Jesus (the real and true GOD).
Nabil
This is a very distressing post. Distressing because it has no sure final answer. Because in the case of this womans death....Islam will not let us have a final answer. Autopsy is haram, but I think if the question was brought up...the law would have interfered. There has to be an answer for a young persons death.
ReplyDeleteYoung people, just don't die. There's always a reason.
So sad whenever I read about a young woman losing her life. I don't know the facts, but I would suspect she was a victim of murder.
My heart goes out to the family. My heart goes out to nabil, who valued this woman as a fine friend and companion. A loss this world may truley never know.
Autopsy haraam? How convenient! I have a bad feeling about this. She was most probably honour killed by the filthy radical brother-in-law !
ReplyDeletei agree...from the evidence there was a cover up! this kind of behavior must stop! Their laws should never play a part in the free world! These people get by with what ever they want! sexual perverts,murder,slavery and so on the list goes! This is why we can make a difference in the fight that is layed at our feet! we must answer the call to defend our freedoms and rights! We must open the eyes of the blind and stop this horrible tyrrany NOW!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteNabil, I am so sorry for your great loss. Your life will never be the same.
ReplyDeleteYou can't blame yourself for not doing more. At the time, you did all you could.
I agree that she was murdered. I suspect someone put something in her drink at the club. Why did the police not ORDER an autopsy? It's just bizarre that they didn't; they should have gotten a Court Order to overrides the family's request for no autopsy. This happened in a PUBLIC place to a young, vibrant healthy woman. It was OBVIOUSLY a suspicious death.
The brother-in-law was behind it; she was dishonouring islam and it was an honour killing. I feel quite sure of that.
How awful for you to have to fight to get in to see her at the funeral. And how DISRESPECTFUL of them to veil her when they knew she wouldn't have wanted it.
Nabil, if it's any consolation, things have a way of balancing out. Trust that God will deal with this His own way.